what's the big deal?

I've been wanting to write about the whole "gay" issue for a long time now. Call me crazy but I don't get it. How does it affect you who I sleep with? I have a lot of friends. Some white, some black, some Indian. Some conservative, some liberal. Some tall, some short. Some gay, some straight.

One thing that bugs me is when straight men (I specify because it's only they who say it) say "I'm fine with it as long as they don't shove it in my face." Excuse me, but don't heterosexual men shove their sexuality in our faces? Women have to put up with a lot that is thrown at them when they step out of the house. It is in rappers' lyrics and it is in the eyes of construction workers. Obviously, I don't mean to say that ALL rappers and construction workers are this way. My point is, what exactly are the straight guys scared of? If a man were to approach you and flirt, will you melt? Are you less of a man now? Have you never gone up to a woman and attempted to get her number? How is this any different? This so-called "problem" has an easy solution. You politely tell the man that you are not interested. There is no need to insult him or cry about "the state of today's society." Besides, what does it say about you that you can dish it out but can't take it?

Now, the marriage issue. I've heard two main arguments. One that marriage is between a man and a woman. Two that homosexuals cannot produce children and therefore shouldn't be married. Firstly, who says marriage is between a man and a woman? The Bible was written by men. The Vedas don't restrict romantic love to be between men and women. The Quran was written by men. Moreover, in a secular country such as the US, religion's definition of marriage is not relevant. I believe marriage to be an agreement to commit to one another wholly and it is born out of mutual love. The love that a gay couple shares is not any different from the love between a man and a woman. Secondly, the argument that gay marriages cannot produce children and so are not credible is total nonsense. A huge number of heterosexual couples do not have children. Whether it be due to infertility or sterility or pure choice, many married couples live and die together without having had children. Are their marriages any less plausible than my parents'? By not allowing homosexuals the right to marry, we as a society are discriminating. If they don't have equal rights, then why should they pay taxes? All men are created equal and it is not up to the majority to vote for the rights of a minority. Whoopi Goldberg often says "If you don't believe in gay marriage, then don't marry a gay person." I couldn't agree more. Some argue that it should not be called marriage because then it lessens heterosexual marriages. Well excuse me but how does it affect you what I call my relationship? The problem with today's world is too many people who can't keep their opinions to themselves.

I've heard some people say that they support gay marriage but not for allowing gay men to adopt. To me, that makes no sense. There are millions of orphans that so desperately need homes. If a couple is willing to give a child a loving home and an education, why does their sexual orientation matter? Gays do NOT breed more gays. If that were true, shouldn't all the homosexuals' parents be gay as well? In a world where we are bombarded with choices in almost everything, why is it that we are trying to take away their right to choose their partners? Studies have shown children raised in a homosexual household to be intelligent, well-adjusted, and open-minded. Shouldn't we be teaching our kids the virtues of tolerance? How can people promote the love of Jesus while holding so much hatred in their hearts?

Homosexuality is not a trend nor is it a disease. Whatever your personal belief may be, it is not right to rob someone of love.


"If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise." -Johann von Goethe