30 July 2010

Listen up, boys!

This one's for all the straight boys because let's face it, most of you need help. I specifically mentioned "straight guys" because the gays know how to dress. As a self-described fashion addict who calls Vogue her Bible, I have some advice for all the men who don't know a thing about what to wear. Bear in mind, these are my opinions only. However, my taste is impeccable and you would be a fool to say otherwise. :p

  • very few men can pull off white linen pants.
  • socks with sandals is never allowed.
  • the white t-shirt under the button-up shirt style went out long ago. let it RIP.
  • skinny jeans are bad for health. they're literally one of the reasons for male sterility. also, it's not attractive to women.
  • Ed Hardy shirts are out. Sorry. Unless you're trying to look like a wannabe, get rid of them.
  • statement shirts are also out. e.g. "your dress would look better on my floor" or "want to study anatomy at my place?"
  • huge gold chains don't look good on you. especially when they're fake.
  • unless you have legs like Rafael Nadal's, don't wear capris
  • jeans that hover at your ankles are not attractive.
  • unless you have arms like Rafael Nadal's, don't wear sleeveless shirts.
  • unless you actually exercise, don't walk around in workout wear. you don't want to be a poser.
  • black denim is still not back in style for men.
  • don't wear one brand head to toe. mix it up.
  • when in doubt, go with a polo and jeans.
  • cargo shorts are good. as long as the color is decent.
  • sweater vests are sexy when done right.
  • make sure you dress appropriately for your height and weight.
  • when you bend over, no one wants to see skin.
  • never wear shorts that end above the knees. never.
  • if you're going to tuck in your shirt, tuck all of it in. don't go halfway.
Some of the best-dressed men I've seen and been told about:

Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, Ranbir Kapoor, David Beckham, James Bond, Leonardo DiCaprio, Mark Ronson, Robert Downey Jr, Zachary Quinto, Will Smith, Justin Timberlake, Siddharth Narayan, Farhan Akhtar

20 July 2010

what's the big deal?

I've been wanting to write about the whole "gay" issue for a long time now. Call me crazy but I don't get it. How does it affect you who I sleep with? I have a lot of friends. Some white, some black, some Indian. Some conservative, some liberal. Some tall, some short. Some gay, some straight.

One thing that bugs me is when straight men (I specify because it's only they who say it) say "I'm fine with it as long as they don't shove it in my face." Excuse me, but don't heterosexual men shove their sexuality in our faces? Women have to put up with a lot that is thrown at them when they step out of the house. It is in rappers' lyrics and it is in the eyes of construction workers. Obviously, I don't mean to say that ALL rappers and construction workers are this way. My point is, what exactly are the straight guys scared of? If a man were to approach you and flirt, will you melt? Are you less of a man now? Have you never gone up to a woman and attempted to get her number? How is this any different? This so-called "problem" has an easy solution. You politely tell the man that you are not interested. There is no need to insult him or cry about "the state of today's society." Besides, what does it say about you that you can dish it out but can't take it?

Now, the marriage issue. I've heard two main arguments. One that marriage is between a man and a woman. Two that homosexuals cannot produce children and therefore shouldn't be married. Firstly, who says marriage is between a man and a woman? The Bible was written by men. The Vedas don't restrict romantic love to be between men and women. The Quran was written by men. Moreover, in a secular country such as the US, religion's definition of marriage is not relevant. I believe marriage to be an agreement to commit to one another wholly and it is born out of mutual love. The love that a gay couple shares is not any different from the love between a man and a woman. Secondly, the argument that gay marriages cannot produce children and so are not credible is total nonsense. A huge number of heterosexual couples do not have children. Whether it be due to infertility or sterility or pure choice, many married couples live and die together without having had children. Are their marriages any less plausible than my parents'? By not allowing homosexuals the right to marry, we as a society are discriminating. If they don't have equal rights, then why should they pay taxes? All men are created equal and it is not up to the majority to vote for the rights of a minority. Whoopi Goldberg often says "If you don't believe in gay marriage, then don't marry a gay person." I couldn't agree more. Some argue that it should not be called marriage because then it lessens heterosexual marriages. Well excuse me but how does it affect you what I call my relationship? The problem with today's world is too many people who can't keep their opinions to themselves.

I've heard some people say that they support gay marriage but not for allowing gay men to adopt. To me, that makes no sense. There are millions of orphans that so desperately need homes. If a couple is willing to give a child a loving home and an education, why does their sexual orientation matter? Gays do NOT breed more gays. If that were true, shouldn't all the homosexuals' parents be gay as well? In a world where we are bombarded with choices in almost everything, why is it that we are trying to take away their right to choose their partners? Studies have shown children raised in a homosexual household to be intelligent, well-adjusted, and open-minded. Shouldn't we be teaching our kids the virtues of tolerance? How can people promote the love of Jesus while holding so much hatred in their hearts?

Homosexuality is not a trend nor is it a disease. Whatever your personal belief may be, it is not right to rob someone of love.

"If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise." -Johann von Goethe

14 July 2010

on a much lighter note

1. What curse word do you use the most? Damn

2. Do you own an iPod? yes

3. What person do you talk to on the phone the most? these days, Mom

4. Do you still remember the first person you kissed? ugh, yes

5. Do you remember where you were on Sep 11, 2001 ? I was at school, 10th grade. In chemistry class when we heard

6. What was the last movie you watched? wake up, sid

7. Has anyone ever called you lazy? mom reminds me every day

8. Do you ever take medication to help you fall asleep? sometimes, when I get desperate

9. Has anyone told you a secret this week? yes

10. What is the first thing you notice about the opposite sex? hair

11. What are you looking forward to? going home in ONE month!

12. Do you own any band t-shirts? yup, Beatles

13. What will you be doing in one hour? sitting in DPS lab :(

14. Is anyone in love with you? probably :p

15. Last time you cried? April

16. Are you on a desktop computer or a laptop? laptop

17. Are you currently wanting any piercings or tattoos? just one!

18. Would you ever date anyone covered in tattoos? depends

19. What were you doing before this? reading a friend's blog

20. When is the last time you slept on the floor? don't remember

21. How many hours of sleep do you need to function? 6-7

22. Do you eat breakfast daily? I try to. But usually don't.

Got this from a friend's blog. Fantastic read. Check it out http://cheerfultornado.blogspot.com


I was watching an old interview in which Sushmita Sen was promoting one of her movies. I'm pasting the part that intrigued me. Anna is the interviewer.

Anna: Cosmetic surgery is a huge thing in Venezuela simply because for a large number of young girls, these international pageants are their goal. How is one not to take it as a shallow beauty pageant?
Sushmita: Because Irene Saez who is an ex-Miss Universe ran for president. And I'm sure she had cosmetic surgery. So what? That's the point.
Anna: But should you not be proud of your looks the way you were born?
Sushmita: That's like saying everybody should have the same mind and opinion. You are born as an individual. You have the right to choose. That's what makes you different. You choose plastic surgery, so be it. You choose being gay, so be it. And it is our job as a society to encourage people to be individuals.

Now, I know very little about beauty pageants and of what I do know, there's very little that I like. I'm not going to go into what it is that I like or don't like. The point of this entry is that we need more women who think like Sushmita Sen. Not only think, but have the guts to be vocal about their opinions. She is very well-spoken and comes across as an intelligent, open-minded woman. It is important to accept and even promote individuality. It is not up to you to tell me how to live my life. If my actions don't affect your well-being, then you have no right to pass judgment. It baffles me when people get offended about others' choices. How does it affect you? How can one say that a Hindu man marrying a Muslim woman is wrong? It is their choice. Just because it's something you would not do, that does not give you the right to tell others not to. It should also be noted that in the excerpt above, Sen is not promoting plastic surgery or beauty pageants. And she's not telling people to get surgery and then compete in a pageant. What she's doing is saying that you have a choice. You are an individual and as long as you are prepared to face the consequences of those actions, you have every right to live life as you see fit. This way, when you fail, you have no one to blame but yourself. And that is a kind of freedom that is priceless. So make your own choices and be brave enough to stand by them. Speak your mind. Fight for your beliefs. Stand up for yourself.